I'll start off first with Cons! #1- Discipline this is always a really hard thing for us parents to do we have to decide what is the best way of going about it. I'm gonna say right now it's a lot of hit and miss! I started out with TIME OUT ha ha yeah that didn't work really well for my little Alexa it didn't matter how long I put her in time out she kept dis-obeying. Time out almost became fun for her! So I get thinking about all the other options I have.... Taking her toys away, sending her to her room, no TV... at this point I started to think about spanking her... I couldn't imagine having to spank my kid but I was at a lost of what to do. So I try spanking... not hard but enough to know that I was upset with her.... lets just say that first time spanking her we both cried... Making these kinds of decisions are so hard on us parents because in all reality we just wanna do what is best for our little ones. I still do time out and taking away of toys but really it's all about mixing up her punishments depending on her disobedience. I love my kid and it sucks that we have to punish them!
#2 People judging me on how and what I'm teaching my kids..... my favorite thing to say to these people is " just because I'm not doing it the way you do doesn't mean I'm doing it the wrong way" We all believe that different things are the right things for our kids and it's true the way I'm doing it might be better for my child but not yours... vice versa . I also wanna talk about those who have 0 children at all... I don't care if you have younger siblings or niece's and nephews that you are close to... they aren't your kids and your not with them 100% of the time so you don't know what it is like to to have to make the decisions we have to make and you haven't been in our situations before. Trust me when your in the store and you've been up all night with a screaming kid and this kid is screaming and acting out in that store you have to understand that at that exact point all of you disappear and all I can see and hear is this little child throwing their fit.... I will get mad at them in public and all around make a fool of myself! But no worries I don't give a shit so you can keep staring and saying "I'll never do that when I have kids" heh I just hope I'm there when you do have kids and are going through that exact situation so that I can lean over and tell you " No worries I know exactly what your going through".
#3 Last of my con's but not least! Talking back... well lets just say when our kids learn how to talk they let you know how they feel all the time. "You're being mean mom", "My heart hates you because you won't get me that toy", "I don't wanna talk to you anymore" .... my daughters personal favorite. It cuts through us... we love our kids more than anything in this world... they are our world. When we hear these things I know that most of us cry or become speechless! We give them everything and we work so hard every day for them and the times they say these things it really hits hard. We know they don't mean it and they love us still, but no lies here... it sucks!
Now I'm gonna go over my PROS #1 Seeing my kids do things for the first time. We all wanna be apart of history and make our mark in history... when in reality we are by bringing in these little beings and teaching them everything we know... down to how we smile, or laugh. I like to believe that is me leaving my mark in history and them leaving a mark in mine. I love seeing all that these kids learn every day. It really is remarkable when you have these babies who don't know anything all of the sudden pick up on everything and quite quick. Their first words, first time holding their bottles, first walk... yes as little as these things are they are now so important and huge to us parents.
#2 Never being alone... I'm not gonna sit here and say I never want a break from my kids, cause I do but to know that no matter what I can always come home to my kids and talk with them, play with them and do absolutely nothing with them! My kids teach me more and more every day. New things about myself and them and believe it or not this world all together... and the most important...the meaning of my life. I want to be more for them so that they have the will and the want to be more as well. They make me want to be a better person.
#3Their unconditional love. You will never ever find that kind of love any where else... I am so much to them! I am the person that will make everything right and the touch of my kiss on their boo boo makes it all better. The times spent cuddling on the couch or in bed just the thought of them wanting to not move or be doing anything else is heart warming and such and amazing feeling. I can't say much more about this because it really is beyond words for me... My kids are my world and I am theirs and that right there makes my life as amazing as it is. Through all the tantrums and fights these moment wash them away like they have never happened and everything seems right and that right there is something I would never give up or regret.... EVER.
I'm just sayin :)
